Recovery Time or Time Out? You Decide.

When your child is misbehaved and out of control. Love and Logic suggests Recovery Time (or Bedroom Time) to let a child calm down and have a quiet time to think instead of being punished in anger and frustration, then later being lectured. This is quite different than Time-Out discipline approach.

The followings are the suggested steps for this Recovery Time/ Bedroom time (not bedtime, don't misstate).



1). Sing "Uh-oh! Looks like a bedroom time" while gently bring our child to recovery area. A recovery area is a safe place where child is isolated from family.
2). Tell your child "we'll see you when you are calm". Avoid angry, frustration or sarcastic sound.
3). Ask your child "do you want to stay in room with door closed or open? If your child choose to close the door, say "how sad, you chose to close the door"
4). Let your child stays in the room, feel free to give anything that will comfort her (e.g. favorite blanket). The main purpose is to let your child regain control.
5). While your child is in the room, do not talk to her or him, even like a war happening inside. (Make sure the bedroom is safe)
6). Once the child is calm, set timer one minute per age. This is the actual time for your child to think.
7). Once the time is up, parent remembers to go into the room, not the child comes to you.
8). Hug your child and never forgot: DO NOT lecture or talk about what has been happening before this. Accept your calm child back with love. You may say something like "I missed you and I am glad to see you are sweet now."

Note: Pay attention to your tone and body language. A child likes any adult needs a time to cool down, but not a real punishment.

Feel free to access the video by Dr. Charles Fay: Love and Logic Techniques for Toddlers