Sharing is so hard in children? Why? Then, how?

Young parents, especially first-timers, are you upset to see your two-year old keep his toy and never want to share with others? What is your response when your little one cries or screams and grabs at someone's belongings? By understanding the stage of sharing in children, you will show different response in this.

The facts: 

Human are naturally self-centered. So, sharing isn't come naturally with young children. Some will say the young children act on a “what's yours is mine” policy. 

Even if is the only child in the family, he/she needs this important skill to make friend. So, teaching your child to share is your fundamental part of your parenting.

Here some suggestions to share:

1. Talk and explain sharing to your child

• Two-year old may not grasp the sharing concept, but gradually they will pick up this, if they get further teaching, learning and experience.
• Tell your preschooler that sharing a toy doesn't mean forever giving away the toy, the ownership unchanged, sharing is a temporary let go and get it back again.
• Show the fun of sharing, working on something together by sharing the tools and enjoy the final outcomes, e.g. baking, playing puzzle, playing board game etc.

2. Learn through play

• Encourage your child to play with other children, particularly a single child in the family
• Expose your child to many social interactions where there are children to play with, e.g. playground, playgroup, caring center, or even visit to other kids.
• Dr. Caron B. Goode gives case studies and its dealing at http://www.more4kids.info/255/teaching-children-to-share/

3. Parents set an example

• The key in successful parenting is role model, action speaks louder than words
• “model sharing in your behavior with others”, by Supernanny Expert, Dr. Martha Erickson

4. Praise any good sharing

• Don't forget to point out the good sharing whenever you spot it
• Usually, I'll say” Good job! I am glad to see you sharing toys with Annie, she is happy and you are happy too”

Anyway, please recognize that it is OK for NOT to share sometimes on something. There is time when a preschooler just isn't ready to give up certain thing. Forcing could only backfire. Talk and find out why she unwilling to share that particular toy. When a friend is invited over for a play date, make sure the toy is kept well.

I use books to educate my daughter on sharing. The coming post shares some good books I have been using since baby. Stay tune ;) .... available now, check on "Teach your Child about Feelings - Sharing"