Discipline Our Children. Why? And How?

As parents, we all love our children. However, sometimes we can spoil our children unconsciously, pamper them into their wants and ways, which later regrets at our own foolishness. To be honest, some parents might just don't know what to do at dealing with their children negative behavior. The old parenting methods from our grandmother or mother are no longer hundred percent workable or legal in our new generation.

Why must we discipline our children?

The reason, simply because parents are given the responsibility (or a call) to teach, to help and to guide our children in love. We are performing our responsibility in raising up children that can distinct right from wrong and be protected in their real world, exists of dangers, boundaries, regulations, rules and laws. While our children are with us, provide them an environment to exercise self-control, accountability and mutual respect through loving and effective discipline.

For parents who agree and wanna to begin a discipline program in your parenting:

In reference to Pediatric Advisor, 2008

1. Over the next 3 to 5 days, notice and list down your child's inappropriate or annoying behaviors.
2. Read through your list and prioritize for correction.
   Immediate attention: behaviors that harm himself or others
   Annoying to be ignored: e.g. not willing to go to bed on time
   Unpleasant can be tolerant: e.g. excessive “NO” in 2-3 years old
3. Decide the punishment for each type of misbehavior

 

Discipline approach for varies ages:

In reference to kidshealth

Age 0-2: Say in calm but assertive “No, please don't”, timeouts for toddler

Age 3-5: timeouts, natural consequences or reality discipline

Age 6-8: timeouts, natural consequences,

Age 9-12: natural consequences

Please continue with my next posting: Further Guidelines